Toxic relationships in campus

 We all come from different backgrounds and different environments which we are all a result of,every kids dream is always to make it to campus.....that was my dream to.

Being in Campus is literally a lifestyle of its own,being away from home,having to take care of yourself,facing the outside world partially as a grown up and taking responsibility of your own actions.All this and yes a reward....a reward of freedom.

With freedom we've never experienced all our lives,there are some decisions we tend to make and when the repercussions come haunting us we call each other toxic.

Fresh from highschool,you come to campus and realize you can actually have a boyfriend and a public relationship with no judgements.....exciting right.....thats what excites a young blood.... did I mention multiple choices of partners,parties and drugs.

We fall prey to all this just because we want to look cool or prove a point.Peer pressure working on consuming your reasoning,you definitely wanna have the best taste in outfits,the dopest sneakers,the current hairstyle,you wanna be upto date with everything .....a lifestyle you can hardly fund....neither can your parents or if they can....that wouldn't want that for their child.

We get into immediate relationships without courting or hardly knowing the partner and even go as far as moving in with them.....all because we have freedom.By the time we are getting to know our partners we are already deep into the relationship.

You make a little mistake and your partner swings right onto your face with a slap and you are puzzled cause its now evident to you that he or she is violent,but how would you know that yet you never courted each other.

You go to bed hungry severally,cause that man you moved in with is required to play the husband role.....providing for you,something he as never done all his life and he doesn't know how to go about it.With all this a woman chooses to involve herself with older men....."wababa" so that she can partially cater for her lifestyle and her boyfriends' lifestyle that's a woman in love,and you can't convince her.This goes on for sometime and in such cases the mans respect for the lady goes down and he eventually decides to call it quits. Such information would puzzle anyone and this is where the woman regrets and even goes as far as committing suicide due to the regret of after all that I did to him,thats why we have rampant suicide cases in campus.

Have I mentioned the irresponsible sex amongst students and their result....unwanted pregnancies and since they both don't have an income,abortion is the only option and women tend to go through a series of that in campus,which is very wrong on all grounds.

Toxic relationships in campus are all a result of unnecessary peer pressure,pressure we could avoid if we choose to,we are all grown in campus and at the liberty of making any decisions,let's make the right ones.

Compiled by Phelecia Adoyo

(DMAC/0516/2019)